If You’ve Just Started Online Dating This Is What You’ll Go Through To Find Love

Everyone is opting for online dating as their main means of meeting people. It’s the digital age, after all. However, there are still those who have not experienced the online dating environment yet. If you’re one of the few who haven’t tried dating on the internet, you need to know that you’re going to go through different stages to find love online.

To Find Love Online, You Must Go Through These Stages

From that first click on the first online profile, you come across, to your first date, you need to know that it’s normal for first-timers to go through the following phases:

Enthusiastic But With Hesitation

The first stage you go through is a stage filled with enthusiasm and hesitation. You’re enthusiastic because you’re hopeful that you’re going to find a date online yet skeptical because you’re probably wondering if online dating does work or not. read more

The Easiest Way To Set Up Relationship Boundaries

Contrary to what most couples think, setting up relationship boundaries is actually a good thing. It does create a bit of a distance between you and your loved one because boundaries is another way of saying “No”. However, you want that tiny bit of space to keep your individuality and relationship intact.

Setting Up Healthy Relationship Boundaries

Not a lot of couples set relationship boundaries because it is a hard conversation to have. As mentioned, setting boundaries is another way of saying “You can’t do this” or “This is not acceptable”. In most relationships, however, it’s not a question of the lack of boundary setting. It’s a matter of poor or unhealthy relationship boundaries.

So how do you set up ones that are healthy and ones that will keep your relationship (and sanity)? There are four steps:

1. Let the other person know that he or she has crossed a boundary.

When your partner has crossed one of your boundaries, make sure to tell them about it. For example, if you don’t like that your partner likes to name call, then tell him or her so. Do it in a voice that’s calm and non-judgemental.

Explain a little bit why you have this personal boundary. If your partner sees him or herself in your shoes, they might understand better.

2. Ask your partner to not cross the boundary again.

When you ask, it’s important, again, to do so in a voice that’s not sarcastic or condescending. Most people respond to a calm voice because it is the voice of reason.

3. Consequence

You have to figure out a good consequence whenever your partner repeats the action. If your partner is aware, it’s likely that he or she will not repeat the offense. But, for other people, it may take a few tries. So, when one of your boundaries has been crossed, you can either take a walk, get out of the house for an hour, or you stop talking to your partner until things calm down. Whatever consequence you set up, make sure that you do good with it.

Those are three steps to establishing healthy relationship boundaries. Keep repeating steps one until three to really let your partner know that what he or she is doing can affect your relationship in a negative way. For more tips on bettering relationships, check out more of our blog posts.

What You Must Know If You Want To Escape A Dating Drought

We have all had our fair share of dating drought. Are you familiar with the term? A dating drought happens when we have not dated somebody for a really long time. Typically, you can say you’ve entered the drought season when your dating life has been non-existent for the past six months.

How To Escape A Dating Drought

It’s hard to be in a drought like this. It makes us really rusty. Our once confident selves can become awkward and anxious, especially when we are faced with a potential date. So can one do to escape the drought?

Join The Online Dating Community

Online dating has to be the best means of meeting someone new in a short period of time. You can start by signing up to a dating website of your choosing. Set up your profile, and then browse through others’ profiles to sort out potential matches.

Sharpen Your Chatting Or Texting Skills

This is the modern age. As you may know, people typically communicate through chat or text. Because you, likely, have not had the chance to communicate through these means with the intent of a romantic connection, you must practice. Chat or text with as many people as you can. Don’t forget to flirt and give out compliments.

Familiarize Yourself With Newer Dating Rules

Dating isn’t what it used to be. Even if you’ve only been out of the game for 6 months or so, a lot may have already changed. To get yourself up to speed, read up on what’s new and what’s trending. You can do so through different online publications.

Date Your Friends

No, we don’t mean that you actually date your friends. Ask one of your friends out on a practice date. You can never really prepare yourself for an actual date if you don’t practice in real life. Because you’re going on a practice date with your friend, he or she will give you all the pointers you need for when you have that first date with the person you met through online dating.

It’s not easy to escape a dating drought, but it is do-able with the right help. Try our tips out and see if they work for you. For more dating tips, check out more from our blog.

This Is How Often New Couples Should See Each Other And It’s Weird

Almost all new couples would want to see each other as often as possible. Everything is new, everything is exciting, and both parties would want to share these with each other. However, an expert is saying that new couples should avoid doing this at the onset of their relationship.

New Couples Should Spend Less Time With Each Other

It’s ironic to say that new couples should spend less time with each other. It sounds counterproductive to most of us, but Dr. Seth Meyers, a licensed clinical psychologist and author, has a good explanation.

Whenever new love forms, the tendency is for both people to want to spend every night together. The problem with this is that we are tempted to be emotionally and physically intimate. There’s nothing wrong with being intimate with the person you are falling for but, according to Dr. Meyers, this usually brings up intense emotions. In turn, these emotions cloud our judgment, making us create a false sense of intimacy and dependence. read more