We all have a type when it comes to dating or meeting people. Whether you admit it or not, we, either consciously or subconsciously, look for traits that we have put on our list. As we go on this journey, we often say that we are looking for the one.
Is Looking For The One A Fruitless Endeavor?
There’s absolutely no problem with the wanting to find someone to love. We all have that basic human need. What’s not working for us, however, is the mindset that we adopt when we look for someone to care for. Experts call it the “destiny mindset”. So, why is it detrimental?
1. It Makes Us Focus On One’s Faults
When you have this long list of traits that are more positive, you will tend to look for traits in your date that’s not on your list. The traits your date lacks are much easier to spot, don’t you agree? For example, you already have this “type” in your mind who likes to sing. If your date doesn’t have a passion for it, then immediately, he or she is not the right person.