Insecurity is something that we all struggle about. Even if you’re with the most confident woman or the most handsome man, you will still need to fix insecurity in your relationship. We all have baggage that we carry. The problem isn’t about having baggage, it’s about how to deal with them to make the relationship strong and healthy.
Fix Insecurity By Focusing On Self-Improvement
One of the most common misconceptions we have about insecurity is that other people can fix it for us. No, we need to fix our insecurities ourselves. We shouldn’t rely on our partner, or anyone for that matter, because we are giving others the power that should only be in us. So, how do you fix any of these?
1. Do It Yourself
The very first thing that you need to do is stop relying on other people to feel validated. Naturally, when you do not feel good about yourself, you tend to look for outside sources to help you feel better. Doing this is not being self-sufficient. Instead of relying on people to validate your existence, do something that makes you feel good. Get a hair cut or even do a project that you know you will ace.
2. Don’t Be The Fuel For Your Partner’s Insecurity
When you’re in a relationship, you tend to share everything with your significant other. There’s nothing wrong with sharing, but don’t go overboard with it. You don’t always need to share everything so that you can maintain your independence. You also don’t have to bare the responsibility of making your partner internally happy and vice versa.
3. Be Patient
The whole process will be long because we cannot take control of an insecurity in a relationship overnight. You have to be patient with yourself and with your partner. Support each other as you try to be better. Don’t give up on one another just because the situation isn’t right.
These are the three major steps that you should take to fix insecurity in a relationship and within yourself. It’s easy to just enumerate the steps, but you have to realize that it is going to be a battle. Go through the process and believe that you can make it work. For more relationship and dating tips, read other posts on the blog.