Let’s start with a little group confession, just to get it out there: everyone hates loneliness. Now that we’ve established this, we can discuss the issue at hand. How far would you be willing to go to find a partner? How wise is it to spend your time and energy pursuing someone who’s probably not that into you? AnastasiaDate discusses.
AnastasiaDate On Lukewarm Hearts and Half-Baked Attempts
When it comes to finding that special someone, sometimes it’s a matter of seconds, aka love at first sight, and others it’s more of an acquired taste, like friendships turned to romantic relationships. In both cases, though, there is one thing that should be there: the willingness of both parties to say “Hell Yes! I really want to get to know this person; I want to make this work”. Not just you. Not just her.
You should both be enthusiastic about the prospect of spending time together. Why? Because people who are self-respecting, attractive, and non-needy don’t give the time of day to people who are not excited to be with them, or who don’t spark their interest.
The Hell-Yeah Approach’s Benefits For Your Dating Life
Does this approach sound too idealistic or dogmatic? If you think about it, it holds many tangible benefits regarding your dating life.
To begin with, you will no longer be strung along by people who aren’t genuinely interested in you. This will mean your immense disappointment and the tons of anger that follow rejection will go away. This time, you call the shots by not allowing people who have the capacity to hurt you into your life.
Second, you will no longer pursue people you are not really feeling it for just to boost your ego. Most people have gone along with someone they were so-so about just because there was no one else available. Where did that lead you? A relationship that was more boring than an Oscar-acceptance speech.
Once you make the decision to immediately go away unless you’re in the “Hell Yeah” mode, some seemingly hard decisions will be made easy. If you feel like someone’s playing hard to get, acting like a player or pushing you to do something you’re not sure you want to, just ask yourself how you feel about it.
Another serious benefit of the Hell Yeah approach is that it will help you establish your own personal boundaries and stick to them. Maintaining strong boundaries will not only make you more self-respecting and attractive, but it will also help you keep your cool and stay sane in the long run.
Last but not least, choosing to not waste time with people who are either not into you or that you are not that into will give you more time for those who really matter to you. Focus your efforts and channel your energy into people who feel right, who make things seem easy and who want to make you say Hell Yeah, I want to spend my time with you.
In A Nutshell
To cut a long story short, at AnastasiaDate we don’t believe in perfect situations and ideal conditions, but we believe in people’s real feelings and free will. So, if you feel that you genuinely want her and that you are both willing to give things a serious try, go for it with all that you’ve got. But it’s much better to waste no more time and move on to something worth your (and her) while if one (or both) of you is unsure. Simple as that.