Rejection is something that never feels great. In dating, when you are rejected online, you may feel like you’re not good enough or you’re not worth giving a chance to. It stings! And, when you really feel rejected, you could start acting out without noticing it.
When We Feel Rejected, We Unconsciously Respond To The Emotion In The Following Ways
No one ever wants to be rejected – it’s natural to think this way. However, experiencing rejection could be a chance for us to learn something about ourselves and others. The problem is, we don’t always look at rejection as a learning experience. We have a very negative perspective of the feeling which causes most of us to:
Withdraw From The Cause Of Our Rejection
For example, when your online dating experience has brought nothing but rejection, you may decide to do less of it. You may not put effort into finding a match because, at the back of your mind, you know what’s going to happen next.
Fear Grows As Our Courage Diminishes
Every time we feel rejected, the fear within us grows. The next time an opportunity presents itself – a person showing interest on a dating site – we are hesitant to grab the chance because of the fear that has developed within us.
Second Guessing Yourself
Earlier, it was mentioned that rejections can make us feel like we are not good enough. Together with the fear and withdrawal, rejection also targets our self-esteem. This could make us question our positive aspects.
These outcomes are the reasons why we need to approach rejection in a much healthier way. If we don’t, we could lead ourselves to a path of self-destruction. Consider the following tips:
- Change your perspective about rejection.
- Accept that you are not everyone’s cup of tea.
- Take up a new hobby.
- Travel and meet new people.
- Focus on improving yourself (exercise, read a book, learn a new skill)
We cannot stop people from rejecting us, but we can always do something about how we react to being rejected. For more tips on self-improvement, read other posts on our blog.