In a relationship, it is like winning the grand prize if you find a best friend, a confidante, and a lover all in one. Most of you probably know what we are talking about. We feel like we can share our personal secrets with him or her, but are there some details that we should spare?

Personal Secrets That You Should Be Keeping To Yourself

There are certain things that are best not to share with your lover, especially if you are on the dating level and still trying to get to know each other better. So here they are – personal secrets that you have to keep to yourself:

Trivial Family Drama

All our families have histories and dramas. We all have hang ups that are best kept in the dark. Revealing them early on in your dating period will just dampen the mood of getting to know each other. If you bring up family issues, especially small ones that can easily be dealt with, it will most likely push the other person away.

Bad Relationship Stories

Clearly, whether you are still dating or are already married, it is not a wise idea to talk about your past relationships and your bad experiences when you were in them. It just leaves a bad taste in your partner’s mouth.

Your Dislike of His or Her Family

So, you have finally met the family, but you cannot stand some members. Unless they did something so horrible, it’s best to just play along or bear it for a while until you see where the relationship is going. Never express your dislike. Your partner might feel protective of hers or his loved ones.

We have personal secrets for a reason. We might feel the urge to pour it all out on the person we love because it’s a natural reaction. However, if we put too much importance on sharing everything, it may cause a bit of friction we don’t want. For other posts about improving relationships, read other posts on the blog.

As any relationship or marriage passes, we get busy and the passions and affections fade out. They don’t totally disappear but the spark has been dimmed to a tiny flickering flame. Some call this falling out of love. To keep the commitment going, we need to check ourselves and apply a reconnection technique that we can easily master.

The Easiest Reconnection Technique For Any Kind Of Couple

The way we connect with our partner can vary from one couple to another. Relationships between couples are very different because of personalities, preferences, and past experiences. There is no one fool-proof method.

But, the best thing to do is to go back to the feeling that started everything. How did you fall in love in the first place? Why did you decide to commit to this person? After you have that emotion in mind, try to memorize these steps:

1. Retrace

Looking back at the time when you fell in love and started the relationship will help you focus on the positive aspects of what you have. It may be that you just drove out of the path because of children, career, or health problems. Or your interests have changed.

Focusing on the good times will help you remember why you got into this commitment. Looking back will help you shift your focus from the problems of the present to the high points in your relationship in the past. It usually helps the couple fall in love “all over again”.

2. Give And Receive Love

To make this reconnection technique work, the couple should find a common time to sit down. This is a great chance for the couple to give and receive love.

This is how it is done: sit in front of each other. And then let the other person know what you love about them. Take turns. If you’re the first to give love (telling your partner why you love him or her), your partner should be sitting still and actively listening. Then, when it is your turn, your partner can do the same – telling you why he or she loves you.

3. Get the Reconnection Technique to Work

As with any relationship, it’s a two-way street. It would be hard to nearly impossible to make things work if it’s only the other party who is willing to put in the effort.

There’s still hope for your relationship despite the fading flame. For other posts about improving relationships, read more on our blog.

We have to admit the fact that we all do things that put our relationship at risk. Some, we are fully aware of, but most of it we actually act out unconsciously. Definitely, if we want to keep our relationship intact, we have to identify what these seemingly innocent habits are.

A List Of Innocent Habits We Never Thought Could Break Our Relationship Apart

What exactly are the innocent habits that might cause our relationship to deteriorate without us noticing it? Carefully take note of everything on this list:

1. Always Staying In

Don’t get us wrong. It’s fun and, sometimes, essential to just stay in with your partner, especially in these pandemic times. You just have to make sure that this doesn’t become a permanent date night option. Definitely, when you have been together for a long time, you can expect lesser date nights, but it’ll be good for your relationship if you go out and have fun together. You can always go for a walk in a forest or plan some other safe activity.

2. Sweeping Things Under A Rug

Isn’t it easier to just avoid talking about the hard stuff? For example, you entered into an argument with your partner. Instead of you talking everything out, you decide to just keep quiet to avoid the stress. You may think that you’re helping your relationship, but it’s actually the opposite.

3. Missing Anniversaries

It’s ideal for you to celebrate everything that you have been through and achieved as a couple. Whether you already have children or not, it’s always nice to celebrate the relationship that you have been working on and putting effort into.

Most couples will agree that a lot of us form a comfort zone when we have already put in a good number of years into the relationship. Comfort zones are great because they make us feel secure. However, in order to keep your passion alive, you have to step out of the comfort zone.

Not all the time of course, because you’re not getting any younger and you have other aspects of your life to take care of. The main point is that you need to be more aware of the status of your relationship, and make sure that you go out of your way to make your partner feel loved and special. For more tips on improving relationships, read more on our blog.

Most men are already aware of what women want in a physical sense. For example, chiseled abs, a well-defined chin, and great looking hair (or maybe a dad bod). However, if you want to be a complete package, you have to look beyond physical aspects that make irresistible men alluring to all women.

Non-Physical Traits Irresistible Men Possess

The truth is, being handsome and having a good physique are just plus points. They can easily be overlooked when the man isn’t confident and assertive. So, instead of feeling down on yourself because you don’t have that summer-ready body, you could work on the following instead:

1. Don’t Say No

What shouldn’t you say no to? Adventures, of course. Irresistible men are always game for new experiences. Whether your date is asking to go to a class together, or a short road trip to somewhere, say yes.

2. Don’t Give Up Easily

You have to be a go-getter. When you’re dating online, you have to be assertive. When you’ve hit it off with someone, ask them out immediately. In an offline setting don’t be discouraged because the person you’re interested in is saying that you are not her type. You have to be persistent and pursue the woman that you want to date. But you have to do that mindfully. If she really means NO, and just teasing you or playing hard to get, then it’s time to move on.

3. Continue Learning

Whether it is current events, or something interesting that you have just discovered, go ahead and continue your quest for knowledge. Women find intellectual men irresistible.

4. Take Charge

You know, even independent women love a man who can take charge. You just have to know how to take charge in a way that doesn’t come off as controlling. For example, if you want to ask your online date out, go ahead. Set the time and place.

All of these traits stem from being self-assured. If you know who you are as a person, all of these traits will just emerge naturally. Keep working on yourself for the better. Irresistible men are confident in their ways because they don’t stop growing and discovering more of themselves. For other tips on self-improvement and dating, read more of our posts on the blog.