Whenever we meet someone through a dating site or a dating app, we take our time in chatting with this person. We need to establish a good connection first before we actually ask the person out on a real date. But, how long should we wait before missing on our chance for a date?

Use This Time Frame So You Never Miss A Chance For A Date

Actually, there aren’t any established rules for when you need to ask someone out after chatting for a while online. But, there is a rule of thumb. Experts say that the most ideal time would be two to seven days. This time frame was taken from a data provided by a dating app, which said that 95% of people on their database meet within the mentioned time frame.

There are exceptions, of course. For example, if you’re here and your chat-mate is miles away, like in Europe. Or, if you’re the type who’s so busy that you have to plan things in advance. In both of these cases, you can meet your online date whenever you have the time or finances to visit him or her.

Ideally, however, you can follow the two to seven days time frame. If you’re really interested in someone and if you have the time, why wait, right?

How To Ask Out Your Online Date

If the circumstances permit, don’t miss your chance for a date by asking to meet someone you’ve met online. Try out the following tips to help you do this:

1. Look For A Connection

Before anything else, you need to have a connection with the person you want to meet. Watch out for that connection when you are chatting. You don’t want to just say that you want to meet up when you haven’t really talked about anything yet.

2. Drop Hints

As you are chatting with the person, drop some hints like, “You know, this conversation would be better while we have coffee, don’t you think?”

3. Ask

When your online date’s response to your hints is positive, grab that chance for a date and ask!

Don’t wait anymore, especially if you think that there’s a chance for you and the person you’re chatting with to have something special. For more dating tips, read other posts on the blog.

When your lady asks, “Why do you love me?” do you usually panic? Don’t worry because most guys do too. Keep in mind that she is not asking because she feels like you don’t love her enough. Sometimes, women just want to hear men express their love from their own lips. But, how would a real man answer this question? You don’t want to mess up your lady’s mood by saying the wrong thing.

A Real Man Will Have A Lot To Say About The Girl He Loves

First of all, don’t get nervous. But, just in case you are at loss for words, review the following suggestions and see which line fits your situation the best:

1. “I love you because you’re not afraid of showing your true self.”

This one is a compliment. You’re telling her that you see who she really is and that you love her for being her true self. It’s hard to be vulnerable around people, sometimes, but you’re saying that you admire her for putting her guard down around you and others.

2. “You feel like home to me.”

Your girl will definitely love hearing this. It tells her that you feel comfortable around her. It’s like saying that your life won’t be complete without her.

3. “You see right through me. You love me for who I am.”

It’s a great feeling to have when you know that your partner is him or herself around you. Saying this line will make your lady realize that you know how much she cares for you.

4. “I love you because you make me a better person.”

Your wife or girlfriend will feel so much better when she hears that she is helping you to be a better person. Through this line, it’s like you are appreciating her and what she does for your relationship.

A real man knows how to express love and affection towards the lady he cares about deeply. Just be truthful, honest, and sincere. Once you are, your lady will feel how much you really love her. For more dating tips, read other posts on the blog.

In our lifetime, we may have met one person who we can never give up. We may feel like this person is the love of our life, the bane of our existence. It’s ironic but there is such a person who we love so much but, we know, isn’t good for us. It’s likely that we develop on and off relationships with this person throughout.

You Need To Stop Having On And Off Relationships

In dating, it’s likely that we hold onto a person because we’re hopeful that things will be better the second, third, or fourth time around. We are actually not noticing what on and off relationships are doing to our mental health.

According to a study done by the University of Missouri in Columbia 60% of adults have experienced on and off relationships. The study involved more than 500 couples. This type of relationship was linked to higher rates of abuse, lower chances of commitment, as well as poor communication. The following are the possible mental effects caused by being in an on and off relationship constantly:

1. Insecurities Heighten

In this kind of relationship, one person will often wonder if he or she will ever be good enough for the other person. As the relationship ends, one person will end up feeling like he or she caused the downfall.

2. Jealousy

Because insecurities are heightened, it’s likely that one or both of the people in the relationship will feel jealous towards anyone or even a hobby which their significant other is doing.

3. Constant Friction

The needs of both people in the relationship are not being met. Definitely, jealousy will follow shortly after. The result of all of the elements mentioned is friction, loads and loads of friction.

4. Depression

Constant friction can then lead to depression. A person can only stand being unhappy or feeling miserable for a few moments. The next phase that will follow will be depression if the relationship is not ended.

If you keep going back to the person who already left, it’ll be an endless pattern of abusing yourself. It’s best to move forward for the sake of your sanity. For more tips on dating and relationships, read other posts on the blog.

Sometimes, we get really lucky and experience an awesome date. The problem comes after. What do you say after a great date that was really amazing? You don’t want to ruin things by saying something awkward or inappropriate. The tendency is for us to overthink the situation.

After A Great Date, You Need To Stop Overthinking What To Say

While you can get dumbfounded waking up the next day and finding out it wasn’t a dream, you have to do something positive after a great date. Snap out of your reverie and do this – send a text message or a private chat message. Here are some tips on how to do it:

1. Time It Properly

Don’t send it too early in the morning or too late, like the next day. Sending it too early makes you seem too eager and clingy. And, your message might wake him or her up and be a turn-off. If it’s too late, your date might already assume something else. Sending your text or chat message mid-morning is about quite right.

2. Show Your Appreciation

As with the basic rule of manners, a “thank you” is in order for a great date. Start with an attitude of gratitude and you won’t be so nervous about it. It’s all about being thankful for the wonderful day or night. So start your message with that.

3. Keep It Light And Positive

When you send a message, remember to keep it simple and not too wordy. You can write something like, “Thank you very much for a great time! I had so much fun with you!” It is just composed of a few words but it is direct and to the point.

4. Include An Emoji— Or Two

When we chat or send a text, of course, our emotions cannot be seen. There is no body language. You can insert an emoji, like a smiley, after the message. It creates a fun atmosphere in the exchange. Just don’t replace actual words with emojis. Be careful with the hearts, though. It might be too early to send them.

Sending a text message or starting a chat opens up the door for a continuing conversation after a great date. Your date will know that you were happy about your outing and you are open for another one. After that, you can already plan the next date. For more tips, read other posts on the blog.