There IS A Way: Here’s How To Win Arguments With Your Girl

Love’s not a competition, but it’s nice to win sometimes. When the first, “honeymoon” phase of the relationship – when all is rosy and neither of you is flawed in any way – passes, dark clouds will start to appear and you will slowly start bickering occasionally. This is how to win arguments with her every time (almost).

How To Win Arguments And Cut Your Losses

It’s a little childish to expect to win every single fight, but it’s also kind of pathetic to lose them all too. If you feel you’re in the right, this is how to deal with an argument.

Choose Your Battles Wisely

First of all, some issues can be resolved without an argument. Minor things can be discussed in a very relaxed fashion and some are not even worth discussing at length. Choose what you ignite an argument about because too much arguing can take a serious toll on a relationship. Not to mention that it’s a waste of precious energy.

Keep Your Cool

Easier said than done, but making an effort to remain calm during an argument is solid advice.  There are quite a few reasons. For you, it’s much easier to follow where the argument is going or navigate it where you want it to go. It is also good for her that you remain calm because when we get hot under the collar we say things we don’t really mean.

Don’t Patronize

There are few things women hate more than to be told to “Relax”, “Don’t get so worked up” and “Take it easy now”. In actual fact, telling a woman these things is like raising a red flag in front of a bull.

“I” Before “You”

It is best that you don’t begin your sentences with “You” but with “I” instead. For example, instead of saying “You are irritating when…”, go for “I feel a little irritated when…”. Might seem like a small thing, but it goes a long way toward making you sound less accusatory and finger-pointy.

Choose Your Timing

If you have had a really bad day at work, or feel too exhausted to process any kind of info or argument, just say so. There is no perfect time for an argument, but if you are honest and say you can’t handle an argument the way you should, it should be respected by your partner. The idea, however, is to postpone for a more fitting time, not sweep the issue under the carpet, so you may want to set a time that would be ok for the conversation/argument to be had.

Don’t Aim To Hurt

Even though you’ll get tempted to use 4-letter words and major accusations and always have one up on her in the insult stakes during the argument, try and aim to resolve the problem, not hurt her. You will lose all control of the argument and become the bad guy if you say things you don’t mean.

Don’t Lose Focus

Last but not least, it’s important to stay focused on the issue at hand instead of throwing in the argument all your problems and complaints about anything and everything. When you are dealing with one single thing, you are far more probable to come up with a solution or agreement of some sort.

Well, arguments are an integral part of any relationship and should not be something to fear. In reality, they help relationships move and couples come to better understanding of each other. Now you know how to win arguments with her, there really is nothing to worry about next time you have a strong disagreement over something.

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The Dos And Don’ts For People Visiting Russia For The First Time

It’s only natural for first-time visitors to a place not to know how things work there. It seems that when it comes to visiting Russia, there are quite a few things to keep in mind.

Visiting Russia? Look Out For These Things

From who to smile at to how to drink your vodka and where to shake hands, Russians seem to be very particular about their way of life. No visitor should go to Russia without knowing these things, so pay attention.

DO dress up for a night out

Muscovites’ “face control” is notoriously strict, so you’d better make extra effort to look great when you hit the clubs, posh restaurants, and theaters in the Russian capital. For women, high heels and nice dresses are a must, while a total black look usually works fine for men.

DO expect to foot the bill when you invite someone out

In Russia, if you invite someone out to eat, irrespective of their gender, you are considered the host and expected to pick up the tab. Asking to go Dutch when you invite someone out is considered rude.

DON’T mix your vodka drink           

Do you enjoy your mix of vodka and orange juice back home? Forget about that in Russia. Here, it is something of a sin to mix vodka with anything. In fact, Russians drink their vodka in shots so a slice of lemon may be something you can ask for if you need to wash yours down. You can also order vodka snacks to accompany your drinks, as this is traditional and totally acceptable in Russia.

DON’T Shake Hands With Your Gloves On Or In A Doorway

Russia may be super cold, but make sure to take your gloves off before you shake hands with someone. It is considered absolutely unacceptable and impolite to greet someone with a handshake when your gloves are still on. Another thing to be careful not to do is to shake hands at a threshold, as Russians consider it bad luck to do so, believing it will lead to an argument.

DON’T Smile Without A Reason

In much of the rest of the world, smiling at someone you see on the street or a line at the supermarket is very natural and a sign of friendliness. In Russia, however, people reserve their smiles for their friends and family. In fact, they have a saying: “To smile without a reason is the sign of a fool”.

DON’T Ever Joke About A Russian’s Mother

You can laugh with and joke about a number of things in Russia – from religion and politics to gender jokes. But you can never ever make a joke about someone’s mom, as it is certain to cause great offense and result in a massive argument. Mother is sacred and very much respected in Russia.

Well, now you know the basics about it, visiting Russia will be trouble-free and lots of fun for you. Why not plan your next trip there?

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Common Myths Dispelled: Why Dating After 50 Can Be Super Fun

In a society that is so obsessed with youth, it is easy to forget that today’s 50-year-olds are worlds apart from what quinquagenarians were like just a few decades ago. Perhaps now is a good time to debunk some of the false myths related to dating after 50.

The Myths And The Truth About Dating After 50

Let’s take a look at the most widespread myths regarding middle-aged people dating, as we explain why each one of them is false.

Myth #1: 50-year-olds don’t have enough energy to date. While this may have been true a few decades ago, in actual fact things are very different today. Today people in their 50s have great health, they enjoy a high standard of living and have a completely different lifestyle compared to that of decades ago. People in their 50s are now strong, healthy and full of beans.

Myth #2: People in their 50s don’t have the desire for physical contact. This is one of the biggest myths. People never lose their interest in or need for intimacy. By contrast, as we mature, we gain experience and become better romantic partners. In fact, it is more likely that a partner in their 50s will have enough experience to know how to make his partner happy.

Myth #3: Middle-aged people are narrow-minded. As with most generalizations, there is very little truth in this claim. In reality, people can be narrow-minded at every age – it is up to the individual to see life in an open way and be more accepting and modern in his views. Today’s 50-year-olds are up-to-date and sometimes even more modern in their views than 20-year-olds. We can thank their high levels of education and the media for it.

Myth #4: 50-year-olds carry too much emotional weight. To be fair, this is not factually wrong. But the way you interpret life experiences is totally up to you. Some might say that people in the fifth decade of their lives are carrying emotional baggage that may be a burden for their relationships. Others, however, may see it in a totally different light. As we grow older, we become more multi-dimensional by discovering that life is not black and white. People dating after 50 may have high standards (because they can compare with what they know), but they are also more empathic, understanding and insightful.

As with most things in life, age is a matter of perspective. If you are dating in your 50s, you should not let anyone categorize you just on the basis of your age. If you are thinking about dating someone in their 50s, you should not judge them on a criterion so shallow as age, depriving yourself of what may be a chance of finding true love.

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