It is a universally accepted truth that not all people are the same. One of the things setting us apart is how open we choose to be in our relationships with others. Some of us tend to be more introverted, while others feel comfortable trusting people right away. Have you ever thought that in your search for a life partner you may not be as vulnerable on a date as you should?

This Is How To Tell If You’re Vulnerable On A Date Or Not

Being open with people we know is hard enough, so it’s only natural to be even more reserved with people that we hardly know. As we grow, life teaches us to put up walls and hide our emotions to avoid further heartache. Especially those of us coming from recent or very hurtful experiences will be even more reluctant to put our trust on a stranger. So, how do you know if you are being too careful, then? These are some of the most common signs:

You Always Expect The Worst

If you assume that the person you are dating is going to screw you over sooner or later, you may believe that you are saving yourself from eventual pain by not trusting them but,  in reality, you are not giving that person a real chance to prove their worth. What’s the use of dating someone you don’t believe in?

You Avoid Questions

When you’re on a date, do you answer to his/ her questions in an honest and open way, or do you measure every word, try to avoid giving out more personal information and change the subject when you feel that you’re about to reveal something about yourself? If so, it may be a clear sign you’re afraid of being vulnerable on a date.

You Don’t Give People Time

Once an idea a person is one way takes root in your mind, there is really no way back. From then on, every date is just an effort you’re unconsciously making to confirm your assumption is right. If all you are doing is looking for clues to convince yourself that your date is not good enough, all you are doing is sabotaging your relationship before it’s even started.

You Think It’s All A Game

Yes, dating can be fun like a game, but it’s not a real game as such. The reason two people date is because they like each other and want to know more about each other, after all. If you don’t take dating seriously, you may not be invested enough to make things work. Games usually involve some competition and seeing the other person as a rival, and in the case of dating the other person should hardly be seen as such.

You Already See An Expiration Date

If you have a certain amount of dates you allow yourself to go to, or if you have already decided in your head that you will allow your dates to reach a certain ‘depth” but not turn into something more, chances are it is coming across to your potential partner and acts as a real deterrent. So, even if you don’t realize you’re feeling this way, or take the initiative to end things, you are still not allowing things to progress further than a few superficial dates.

In a world that’s full of potential but also superficiality and fast-food relationships, it’s easy to close yourself off to something deeper for fear of getting heartbroken. Being vulnerable on a date, however,  is not about being naive and silly, it’s the only way to forge a real and meaningful relationship with a person who will do the same for you. Remember, relationships that are not built on mutual trust are doomed to failure.

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Times may have changed and women may be more emancipated than ever, but they still like to let the guys do most of the work when it comes to flirting. Sometimes, however, their flirting can be so subtle – or guys may be so thick – that it’s almost imperceptible. Could it be that she’s flirting with you and you don’t even realize it?

If She’s Doing This, Maybe She’s Flirting With You

From her very subtle body language moves to the way she responds to your comments or the way she tries to get some alone time with you, these are the signs that should tell you that she’s interested in you.

She tilts her head. If she tilts her head to one side as you talk; flipping her hair, for example, it might be a sign she’s into you. Our neck is one of the most vulnerable parts of our body and also one of the greatest erogenous zones. So, her willingness to expose this part so openly means that she is, perhaps unwittingly, trying to lure you. If it’s accompanied with direct eye-gazing too, we’re kind of wondering why you haven’t made your move yet.

She walks by you multiple times. If you are standing at the bar and you have already seen her pass by you more than once or twice, you should start wondering if she is trying to draw your attention so that you will make the first move.

You’ve got her undivided attention. In the event you are already talking to her, check out how willing she is to continue the conversation. A good idea is to ask simple questions that could be answered in a few words and see if she elaborates further than necessary.

If you are with a bunch of people and crack a joke to find her laughing her heart out even when it’s not that hilarious, it could also be a sign she is interested in you and is eager for you to know it.

She’s got that goofy smile. The endorphins our body produces when we’re happy and/or in love make us smile from ear to ear. If she can’t seem to wipe that smile from her face as you talk to each other, it may be that she really, really likes you.

She draws attention to her lips. A woman’s mouth is one of the sexiest things on her, so if you see her touching her lips, biting them, or playing with the straw as she sips her drink, it is most probably a sign she likes what she sees and wants you to notice her too.

She’s eyeing you. One of the least subtle ways to tell she’s flirting with you is when she can’t take her eyes off of you. A piercing look can be felt from right across the room, so if the look is coming from her direction, look back and see what happens.

These are just some of the ways to tell she’s flirting with you, of course. Every woman is different and her flirting ways can be a lot more forward or even more subtle, but by and large, you should not neglect these signs – especially if you are also drawn to her.

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There is one line that an ex can tell you as she breaks up with you that sounds worse than the biggest insult: “We can still be friends”. Even though she may mean it as the words come out of her mouth, there are very real reasons why you simply shouldn’t be friends with your ex.

Thinking About Remaining Friends With Your Ex?

Breaking up is never easy. This is mainly for one simple reason: both partners are not on the same page. One of them is always more invested, more determined to make things work, more in love than the other. Then, the breakup happens, and the dumper might decide to try and keep the platonic part of the relationship – partly because they still care about their ex-partner enough to want them in their life (in a non-sexual way, of course) and partly because it frees their conscience from the guilt of having caused pain. If your girl broke up with you and you’re thinking about remaining friends, you may want to watch this School of Life video before you decide.

Philosopher and founder of the School Of Life, Alain De Botton, explains that “We are deeply attached to the idea that we’re not monsters and as we know, nice people always try to be friends with their exes,” but also adds that “the step from lover to friend is an eternally humiliating demotion”. The person who was rejected will be looking for a sign that things might return to how they used to be again, and the one who left the relationship will never truly be able to offer him comfort, lest the rejected partner misinterprets her kindness as a sign she wants to rekindle things.

Why Beings Friends With An Ex Is A Fallacy

Since true friendship is based on honesty and feeling free to be yourself, this is impossible to do with an ex. As the popular philosopher puts it: “Every sighting of the ex is guaranteed to reignite hope, and then, further insult. One isn’t acquiring a friend, more an unwitting torturer.”

All things considered, it seems clear that trying to remain friends with your ex is a sure-fire way to eliminate all the beautiful moments an ex-couple has shared in their relationship, as the fond memories give their place to feelings of resentment and half-hearted conversations and meetings. As the School of Life video concludes: “There is only one place where the relationship at its best and most enduring light can live on safely: memory.”

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In our (sometimes) desperate desire to find our significant other, we turn to a number of experts for the right advice on how to win over our object of desire. However, almost nothing in life is black and white, and the same goes for the way we should deal with romance and dating. Here are some dating rules you need to stop following blindly.

Why These Common Dating Rules Don’t Work

We don’t suggest that you shouldn’t listen to any kind of advice, but here are some reasons why some dating rules may actually be dating myths.

Rule 1. You shouldn’t discuss any sort of serious topics on your dates. While there is some sense to this piece of advice, it should just be followed on the first, maybe even second, date. You may not want to go into a heavy conversation about politics or religion from the word go, but keeping conversations trivial for longer than that is simply wrong. If you are interested in a serious relationship, you need to know that you and your date are on the same page regarding some core issues, at least.

Rule 2. You shouldn’t ever talk about your past relationships. Again, this is a rule that seems very logical. But here, the key is moderation. Incessantly talking about your ex would be a clear sign you are not over her yet and would, no doubt, put your current date off for good. At the other end of the spectrum, though, acting like you don’t have a past can also be indicative of the fact you’re not over your ex yet. The best idea is to be able to discuss your past (no details necessary, of course), thus showing you are not only over it but also wiser for it.

Rule 3. You need to wait an X amount of time before you pursue sexual contact or agree to it. This piece of advice is so outdated it is almost funny. How soon or late you feel comfortable being intimate with someone is an absolutely personal decision and cannot be put into rules and stereotypes. Simply do what your heart desires and what you both feel comfortable with.

Rule 4. You should keep your “issues” to yourself. While it is logical to try to impress her, if you know you have some specific issues (for example, anxiety attacks or commitment issues), it is best to be open about them and let her know what she is deal with from the start. We’re not suggesting that you should go about talking about your dysfunctional family from the first date, but it’s not a good idea to hide who you really are either. Pretending will not make anyone make the right decisions regarding your relationship.

Rule 5. You should play hard to get. How many times have you heard someone telling you not to text her straight away but rather let 2 days pass before you make any kind of contact as a way to play hard to get? In today’s fast-paced world the next guy is one profile swipe or a click away, so why waste time if you know she’s what you want? As in Rule 3, the best policy is to follow your instinct.

Relationship advice helps us deal with difficult, stressful or unknown situations and that’s why it’s so valuable. However, it is ultimately up to you to decide with relationship rules you want to follow and which you should disregard.

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