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You Don’t Need Impostor Syndrome In Your Relationship (Or The Rest Of Your Life)

If you haven’t heard of the impostor syndrome, you better get around to know more about it. The term itself was coined in the 1970s because researchers found that a lot of people were concerned about not being good enough.

Work Through Your Impostor Syndrome In Life And Love

Essentially, the impostor syndrome is rooted in the belief that a person is pretending to be someone he or she is not (even though the opposite can be true). Today, in the age of technology, experts say that the impostor syndrome is felt even more.

We all have easy access to social media. Every one of us can see and keep track of people’s lives. You might question where you are right now because you saw a younger person running a big company all on his or her own.

This is what this syndrome does to us – it makes us stop and think whether we are just pretending to be our best selves. Deep down inside, we may feel like we’re simply inadequate. This feeling extends to all aspects of one’s life, not just the love department.

Impostor Syndrome Symptoms

To see if you have this syndrome, read the scenarios below and check if they seem familiar to you:

  • You’re worried that your boss or significant other might find out that you’re not a good employee or person.
  • You only feel like you did well on something when you get confirmation from those around you.
  • You don’t feel comfortable when someone passes you a compliment.

Why Is This A Problem?

If we feel that we are not good enough, there’s a chance that this perspective might mess up our love lives. It will likely mess up our personal relationships and our careers as well. You have to recognize that there’s a difference between wanting to improve yourself and believing that you are not good enough. To get past this nasty syndrome, consider the following tips:

  • Say thank you when your partner or anyone gives you a compliment.
  • Take on hobbies that will make you feel accomplished. Yoga, for example, helps you get more in-tune with your inside self. Hiking is a good way to have that sense of achievement too.
  • Don’t fake it! Having the mentioned syndrome could make you do things to appear better. No, stop it. Just be yourself and accept that it is good enough.

Everyone has the impostor syndrome. We just have varying levels of how deeply we feel it within us. To get rid of it totally, it’s important that you work on your self-awareness and self-perspective. For more tips on self-improvement, read other posts on the blog.