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Dating Update: Is Breadcrumbing The New Ghosting?

What in the world is breadcrumbing? Apparently, it is a new online dating term that’s similar to ghosting. If you haven’t heard of those expressions yet, the main point you need to know is you should avoid doing both.

Breadcrumbing Explained

Before we get into what breadcrumbing is, let’s talk about ghosting so we have all bases covered.

Ghosting means that you go off the radar without any warning or explanation. For example, you’ve been talking to this beautiful European girl for a while. You, then, decide that you don’t like her as much, so you stop all communication with her without telling her anything – not even a goodbye.

Now, we can move on to breadcrumbing. It is a new term used to describe an online dater who contacts you on and off, not really making his or her intentions clear. This dater leaves enough “crumbs” for you to be interested but then disappears without a trace. After a few weeks or months, the dater resurfaces, starting the cycle of leaving crumbs all over again.

How to Avoid Breadcrumbing

Now, do you see why both ghosting and breadcrumbing have negative connotations? You have to avoid doing both at all costs because you don’t want to lead someone on only to break their heart in the end. Here are some tips on how to avoid ghosting and breadcrumbing:

  1. Be clear with your intentions. If you don’t like a person or if you just want to remain friends with a person, tell them.
  2. Don’t go for the easy way out. Telling someone the truth. It can sting a little, but it’s better than to leave them hanging.
  3. Be aware of your actions. Flirting with someone online is not a bad thing, but make sure that you don’t flirt too much to the point where a person mistakes it for you wanting to have a relationship.
  4. Communicate. Aside from being honest about the type of relationship you want, you should also be honest if you won’t be able to go online for a few days or weeks. For example, if you’re going on a business trip, or if you’re busy. This way, they won’t feel like you ditched them.
  5. All your decisions should be final. Before saying anything to the person you may be interested in online, make sure that what you’re feeling is not fleeting. If you tell her that you’d rather be friends, you cannot take it back.

Have you ever been “breadcrumbed” before? We hope not. For more dating tips, don’t hesitate to check out the rest of our post on our blog.

Things You’ll Regret Telling Her On The First Date

First date is always nerve wrecking. What do you say? How do you act? Do you have broccoli on your teeth? There’s so much to worry about.  Sorry if that doesn’t sound reassuring, but it’s the truth. Despite that, all the mistakes you can make can be made up with a pleasant and engaging conversation.

Don’t Talk About The Following Topics On Your First Date

Interesting conversation can be the problem though because what to talk about is one of the things that worry you. Well, let’s just start with topics or statements that you should avoid to keep things simple.

Ex Attacks

If you’re going to talk about your ex negatively, make sure that you’re just doing it with your friends. This is beyond inappropriate for a first date topic. You don’t want your date to think that you’re bitter and that you carry a lot of excess baggage with you.

Rude Words

By being rude to waiters, bartenders, and other servers, you’re not showing your first date that you’re confident. You’re showing her that you’re rude. Confidence has nothing to do with being overly arrogant and disrespectful.

The Football Game

Rarely you will find a woman who is as excited about sports as you. If you’re on a first date with one who is, that’s fantastic, but if not, do not bring up the basketball, football, or baseball game you watched last week. Don’t explain why it was the most epic game of the season. You’ll just bore her. Move on to another topic instead.

Your Financial Worries

If you’re out of work currently, that can be a problem because your date will ask, sooner or later, what your job is. Simply rephrase it. Tell her something like you’re currently inbetween jobs. That’s a white lie, but gentlemen, please understand that women are attracted to men who are ambitious, passionate and full of potential.

Give YourMouth A Rest

Last but not the least is shutting your mouth. Sometimes, saying nothing is the best thing to do. Listen to your date and give her a chance to tell her story. Women love it when men listen. Don’t just fake it too! Actively listen to what she has to say and react to it to make an engaging and interactive.

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